Purification of the Soul

The Shaykh {qluetip title=[A]}He is the mufti and faqih, Abu'l-Barakat Badr ud-Din al-Ghazzi. For his biography, refer to Shadharatudh-Dhahab (8/403-406) of Ibn al-'Imad and Al-A'lam (7/59) of Az-Zirikli{/qluetip} - rahimahullah - said:

Know O pious brother - may Allah make our affairs good - that the manners of companionship and good relationships are of various types, of which I will explain, such as will show the person of intellect the manners of the Believers and the Pious; and come to know that Allah the Most Perfect, the Most High has made them a mercy and helpers towards each other, which is why the Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said, "The example of the Believers, in their mutual love and mercy is like the example of a body, if one part feels pain, then all of the body suffers in sleeplessness and fever." {qluetip title=[1]}Related by Al-Bukhari (no. 6011) and Muslim (no. 2586), from An-Nu'man Ibn Bashir radhiallahu 'anhu{/qluetip} And he 'alayhis-salam said, "The Believer to the Believer is like a solid building, one part supporting the other." {qluetip title=[2]}Related by Al-Bukhari (no. 481) and Muslim (no. 2585), from Abu Musa al-Ash'ari radhiallahu 'anhu{/qluetip} The Prophet 'alayhis-salam also said, "The souls are arrayed armies, so those who knew each one another before, will be friendly … " {qluetip title=[3]}Sahih: Related by Al-Bukhari (6/369) with ta'liq (suspension), from 'A'ishah radhiallahu 'anha. It was connected by Abu Ya'la in Al-Musnad (no. 4381) with an isnad whose narrators are from As-Sahih - as occurs in Al-Majma' (8/88) of Al-Haythami{/qluetip}

So if Allah intends good for His servants, He grants them companionship of the people of the Sunnah, righteousness and adherence to the Religion; and keeps him free from the companionship of the people of innovations. The Prophet 'alayhis-salam said, "A person is upon the religion of his friend, so let every one of you look to whom he keeps as a friend." {qluetip title=[4]}Hasan: Related by Ahmad (2/303), Abu Dawud (no. 4812) and At-Tirmidhi (no. 2484), from Abu Hurayrah radhiallahu 'anhu. It was authenticated by Imam An-Nawawi in Riyadh as-Salihin (no. 174){/qluetip}

"About a person, do not ask, but ask about his companion;
Since every companion follows his friends."

From the manners of companionship are ...

Good Manners

Good manners with the brothers, peers and companions, following the Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam as he said, when it was said to him, "What is the best of what a person is given?" So he replied, "Good manners." {qluetip title=[5]}Sahih: Related by Waki' in Az-Zuhd (no. 423), Ibn Hibban (1/427) and At-Tabarani in Al-Kabir (1/147), from Usamah ibn Sharik radhiallahu 'anhu. It was authenticated by Al-Hafidh Al-'Iraqi in Takhrijul-Ihya' (2/157){/qluetip}

Making One's Opinion Good

From the manners of companionship is behaving well regarding the faults that he sees of his companions, since Ibn Mazin said, "The Believer seeks excuses for his brothers, whilst the hypocrite seeks out their faults." And Hamdun al-Qassar said, "If one of your brothers commits an error, then seek ninety excuses for him, and if not, then you are the blameworthy one."

Companionship with the Believers

To keep companionship with one whose Religion you trust and who is trustworthy, both inwardly and outwardly. Allah - the Most High - says:

"You will not find anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even though they were their fathers, sons, brothers or their relatives. For such He has written iman (faith) in their hearts, and strengthened them with a spirit (proofs, light and guidance) from Himself. And We will admit them into gardens underneath which rivers flow, to dwell therein forever. Allah is pleased with them, and they are pleased with Him. They are the Party of Allah, indeed it is the Party of Allah that will be successful."
[Al-Qur'an 58:22]

Forms of Companionship

For the Shayukh and elders: with respect to service and to carry out their needs. For those of the same peer group and those of the 'middle rank': with sincere advice, giving what you have and being prepared to carry out their wishes. For the students and younger ones: by guidance, teaching of manners, carrying out what knowledge demands, guidance to the manners of the Sunnah, rulings concerning the matters of the heart, and to guide them to develop good manners.

Overlooking Mistakes

From the manners of companionship is overlooking mistakes of the brothers and not reprimanding them. So Al-Fudayl ibn 'Iyadh (d. 187H) said, "Chivalry is to overlook the mistakes of the brothers." Ibn Al-A'rabi (d. 231H) said, "Forgetting the harms caused by the brothers, causes you love of them to persist." So it is binding upon the Believer, that he avoids seekers of this world, since they will bring him down to the level of seeking it, and this will distance him from his salvation and it will distance him from remaining alert and being aware of it. Rather, he must strive hard in attaining the companionship of the good and the seekers of the Hereafter. Therefore, Dhu'n-Nun (d. 245H) said to the one whom he advised, "Accompany the one whom you will be safe from outwardly, and whom - when you see him - it helps you in doing good and reminds you of your Lord."

Agreement with the Brothers

And from them is: not to differ much with the brothers, but continue agreeing with the brothers in those things allowed by knowledge and the Shari'ah. Abu 'Uthman said, "Agreeing with the brothers is better than showing compassion for them."

Leaving of Envy

That he does not envy the signs of Allah's bounty upon them. Rather, he should be happy for that and praise Allah for it, just as he would praise Allah if it were seen upon him. Allah - the Most High - censures the envious one: "Or do they envy men for what Allah has given them from His bounty." [Al-Qur'an 4:94] The Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said, "Do not envy one another." {qluetip title=[6]}Sahih: Related by Ahmad (2/501) and At-Tirmidhi (no. 2077) with a sahih isnad, from Abu Hurayrah radhiallahu 'anhu{/qluetip}

To Keep a Feeling of Modesty

That he has haya' (modesty and shame) at all times, as he - 'alayhis-salam - said, "Iman (faith) has sixty or seventy odd branches, the most excellent of them is witnessing that none has the right to be worshipped besides Allah, and the lowest branch is removing something harmful from the road, and haya' is from iman." {qluetip title=[7]}Related by Al-Bukhari (10/484) and Muslim (no. 2564), from Abu Hurayrah radhiallahu 'anhu{/qluetip} He - 'alayhis-salam - also said, "Haya' is from iman, and iman is from Paradise. Speaking obscenely is from coarseness and coarseness is from the Fire." {qluetip title=[8]}Related by Al-Bukhari (1/44) and Muslim (1/46){/qluetip}

Companionship of the Dignified

To accompany the one who he has a feeling of respect for, so that this prevents from acting contrary to the Shari'ah. 'Ali radhiallahu 'anhu said, "Enliven your feeling of haya' (shame), by sitting before those whom you feel shame." Ahmad ibn Hanbal (d. 241H) - rahimahullah - said, "I have not been led into calamity except by accompanying those before whom I do not feel shame."

Showing Happiness

To have cheerfulness of the face, kindness of the tongue, largeness of the heart, outspreading the hands, withholding anger, leaving off pride, keeping people's honour in mind and showing happiness at their companionship and brotherhood.

Companionship of the Wise Scholar

From good companionship is that he does not accompany except a Scholar, of a person who is mild, intelligent and has knowledge. Dhu'n-Nun - rahimahullah - said, "Allah has not disrobed any one of His servants or a robe better than intellect, and has not adorned him with a necklace better than knowledge, nor adorned him with anything better than mildness. And the completeness of that is taqwa (fear of Allah)."

Giving Sincere Advice

Having a clean heart with regards to the brothers and advising them, as Allah - the Most High - said: "Except he who comes to Allah with a clean heart." [Al-Qur'an 26:89] Sari as-Saqati (d. 257H) - rahimahullah - said, "One of the best manners of righteousness is having a good heart as regards the brothers and to give them sincere advice."

Not Breaking Promises

Since this is from hypocrisy, and he - 'alayhis-salatu wa's-salam - said, "The signs of the hypocrite are three: When he speaks he lies, when he makes a promise he breaks it and when he is entrusted he acts deceptively." {qluetip title=[9]}Related by Al-Bukhari (5/289) and Muslim (1/76){/qluetip}

Sufyan ath-Thawri (d. 164H) - rahimahullah - said, "Do not make a promise to your brother and then break it, so that love turns to hate."

(s) Adab ul-'Ishrah wa Dhikr as-Suhbah wa'l-Ukhuwwah (p. 9-20) with the checking and authentication of hadith based upon that of Shaykh 'Ali Hasan al-Halabi and also Shaykh Mashhur Hasan Salman.

Be Mindful O Mankind!

There are three things that cannot be acquired by means of three other things: riches by means of desire, youth by means of khijab (dying of the beard) and health by means of medicine.
Abu Bakr as-Siddiq (d. 13H), may Allah be pleased with him