Problems and Solutions
- Salih al-Munajjid
- 1. Introduction
- 2. Sleeping and Missing Salat al-Fajr
- 2.1. 1. Sleeping Early
- 2.2. 2. Making Sure that One is Clean (tahir) and Reciting Adhkar (prayers) Before Sleeping
- 2.3. 3. Having a Sincere Intention and Being Determined, When Going to Sleep, that One Will Get Up for Fajr
- 2.4. 4. Remembering Allah as Soon as One Wakes Up
- 2.5. 5. Seeking Help from One's Family and Friends to Pray Fajr, and Encouraging One Another in this Regard
- 2.6. 6. Praying to Allah to Help Him to Wake Up to Pray Fajr in Congregation
- 2.7. 7. Using Various Means of Being Woken Up, Such as Alarm Clocks
- 2.8. 8. Throwing Water in the Face of the Person Who is Sleeping
- 2.9. 9. Not Sleeping Alone
- 2.10. 10. Being Lively and Active Upon Waking
- 2.11. 11. Not Setting the Alarm Too Early
- 2.12. 12. Lighting a Lamp when Waking Up
- 2.13. 13. Not Staying Up Late, Even to Pray Qiyam al-Layl
- 2.14. 14. Not Eating Too Much Before Going to Sleep
- 2.15. 15. Warning About the Misinterpretation of the Sunnah to Lie Down After Praying the Sunnah of Fajr
- 2.16. 16. Praying Qiyam al-Layl Late in the Night
- 2.17. 17. Following the Example of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) in Lying Down to Sleep
- 3. Excessive Laughter
- 3.1. 1. Remembering Death
- 3.2. 2. Thinking About the Situation of the Muslims and How They are Suffering Because They Have Strayed From Their Religion
- 3.3. 3. Feeling the Weight of his Great Responsibility Towards his Ummah
- 3.4. 4. Avoiding Mixing with Jokers
- 3.5. 5. Resisting the Urge to Laugh as Much as Possible, as Well as Trying to Stop Others from Laughing
- 3.6. 6. Changing the Subject that Led to the Laughter, and Introducing Another, Useful Subject
- 4. Waswas (Insinuating Thoughts from Shaytan)
- 5. Staying Up Late
- 6. Short Temper
- 6.1. 1. Seeking refuge with Allah from the Shaytan
- 6.2. 2. Keeping quiet
- 6.3. 3. Keeping still
- 6.4. 4. Remembering the advice of the Messenger of Allah
- 6.5. 5. Remembering what Allah has promised
- 6.6. 6. Knowing the high rank and distinction that is bestowed upon the one who controls himself
- 6.7. 7. Following the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) with regard to anger
- 6.8. 8. Knowing that suppressing anger is one of the signs of taqwa (piety)
- 6.9. 9. Paying attention when one is reminded
- 6.10. 10. Knowing the bad effects of anger
- 6.11. 12. The angry person should think about himself at the time of anger
- 7. Du'a'
Praise be to Allah, we praise Him and seek His help, and we seek refuge with Allah from the evil of our own selves and from our evil deeds. Whomever Allah guides, no one can mislead, and whomever Allah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god except Allah alone, with no partner or associate, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
"O you who believe! Fear Allah as He should be feared, and die not except in a state of Islam (as Muslims) with complete submission to Allah." [Al-Qur'an 3:102 – interpretation of the meaning]
"O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person, and from him created his wife, and from them both He created many men and women, and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely, Allah is Ever an All-Watcher over you." [Al-Qur'an 4:1 – interpretation of the meaning]
"O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allah and fear Him, and speak (always) the truth. He will direct you to do righteous good deeds, and will forgive you your sins. And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed achieved a great achievement." [Al-Qur'an 33:70 – interpretation of the meaning]
Some brothers have asked me questions in various talks and lectures, including questions about a number of problems, "diseases of the heart" (spiritual problems) and very real obstacles that they are facing. I answered these questions and enquiries in a series of studies entitled Shakawa wa Hulul (Problems and Solutions).
This series has been reviewed for publication, and I now present it to my brothers in the hope that this action may be included in those referred to in the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): "Whoever relieves a believer of some of the distress of this world, Allah will relieve him of some of the distress of the Day of Judgement … Allah will help His slave so long as the slave is helping his brother." [Sahih Muslim] I ask Allah to give my brothers and me the strength to do good deeds and to avoid evil, and to save us on the Day of Regrets, for He is the Best of those who are asked, and He is Able to do all things..
Sleeping and Missing Salat al-Fajr
A brother complained: "I miss Salat al-Fajr on most days, and I hardly ever pray it at the right time. Usually I do not wake up until after the sun has risen, or at best I wake up after the time for praying Fajr in jama'ah. I have tried to wake up at the right time, with no success. What is the solution to this problem?"
All praise be to Allah. The solution to this problem, like others, has two aspects: theoretical and practical.
The theoretical aspect may be further broken down into two points:
(1) The Muslim should know the great status of Salat al-Fajr in the sight of Allah, may He be glorified. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Whoever prays the dawn prayer in congregation, it is as if he had prayed the whole night long." [Muslim, p. 454, no. 656; At-Tirmidhi, 221]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) also said:
"The most burdensome prayers for the hypocrites are Salat al-'Isha' and Salat al-Fajr, but if they only knew what they contain, they would come even if they had to crawl." [Reported by Imam Ahmad, Al-Musnad, 2/424; Sahih al-Jami', 133]
"Whoever prays Fajr is under the protection of Allah. Do not put yourselves in a situation where Allah has to call you to account for your negligence." [Reported by At-Tabarani, 7/267; Sahih al-Jami', no. 6344]
"Angels come to you in shifts by night and by day. They meet at Salat al-Fajr and Salat al-'Asr, then those who had stayed with you at night ascend, and are asked by the One Who knows better than they: 'How did you find My servants?' They say, 'We left them when they were praying, and we came to them when they were praying.' " [Reported by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath, 2/33]
"The best of prayers in the sight of Allah is the dawn prayer on Friday, in congregation." [Reported by Abu Na'im in Al-Hilyah, 7/207, and in Al-Silsilah as-Sahihah, 1566]
According to a sahih hadith: "Whoever prays Al-Bardayn will enter Paradise." [Reported by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath, 2/52. Al-Bardayn are Fajr and 'Asr]
(2) The Muslim should understand the seriousness of missing Salat al-Fajr. This is explained by the hadith already quoted:
"The most burdensome prayers for the hypocrites are Salat al-'Isha' and Salat al-Fajr … "
In As-Sahih, it is reported that Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both) said: "If we did not see a person at Fajr and 'Isha' prayers, we would think badly of him." [Reported by At-Tabarani in Al-Mu'jam al-Kabir, 12/271. Al-Haythami said, the men of At-Tabarani are muwaththaqun (trustworthy). Al-Majma', 2/40] They thought badly of a person who was absent from these two prayers because regular performance of them is an indication of a person's faith and a measure of his sincerity. Other prayers may be easier to do because they are more convenient to a person's circumstances and fit in with his work and his sleep, but only those who are determined and sincere, people whom one hopes are good people, will be able to pray Fajr and 'Isha' regularly in congregation..
Another hadith which indicates the seriousness of missing Salat al-Fajr is: "Whoever prays Fajr is under the protection of Allah. Do not put yourselves in a situation where Allah has to call you to account for your negligence, because whoever finds himself in this situation will be sorted out and then thrown on his face in the Fire of Hell." [Reported by Muslim, p. 454]
These two points are sufficient to guarantee that the Muslim's heart will burn with the concern to ensure that he does not miss Fajr. The first motivates him to strive to earn the reward for Fajr, and the second acts as a warning that will deter him from committing the sin of negligence.
The practical aspect of dealing with this problem includes a number of steps which the Muslim can take in order to get used to performing Salat al-Fajr regularly in congregation. These steps include:
1. Sleeping Early
According to a sahih hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to dislike sleeping before 'Isha' and talking afterwards. The Muslim should not sleep before Salat al-'Isha' because it is obvious that most of those who sleep before it will spend the rest of the night feeling so tired and heavy that it will be as if they are ill.
Also, the Muslim should not talk after 'Isha', and the scholars have explained the reason why doing so is disliked: it is because doing so leads to people staying up late, which in turns leads to the fear that they will sleep and miss Qiyam al-Layl, or the correct or preferred time for Fajr prayer.
The kind of talk that is disliked after 'Isha', as the commentators explain, is that in which there is no clear benefit, but if there is some benefit – such as studying and gaining knowledge, learning stories of righteous people, speaking to a guest, spending time with one's wife and family, speaking to travellers and taking care of them and their luggage, or any other permissible reason – then there is nothing wrong with it. This has no connection with the reasons for which many people stay up late nowadays, to do wrong and commit sin! So the Muslim should sleep early, so that he can wake up refreshed to pray Fajr and avoid the kind of late nights that make him too tired to get up and pray Fajr in congregation.
It is a fact that people differ with regard to their need for sleep, so it is not possible to dictate a set number of hours that people should sleep, but each person should stick to the time that will give him enough sleep to wake up refreshed for Salat al-Fajr. If a person knows from experience that sleeping after 11pm, for example, will mean that he cannot get up for Fajr, then from an Islamic point of view he should not sleep any later than that … and so on.
2. Making Sure that One is Clean (tahir) and Reciting Adhkar (prayers) Before Sleeping
This helps a person to get up for Fajr.
3. Having a Sincere Intention and Being Determined, When Going to Sleep, that One Will Get Up for Fajr
But a person who goes to sleep hoping that the alarm will not go off, and that no one will come and wake him up, will not – with such a corrupt intention – be able to get up to pray Fajr whilst he still has this bad intention.
4. Remembering Allah as Soon as One Wakes Up
Some people may initially wake up, then they go back to sleep again. But if a person remembers Allah straight after waking up, this will loosen one of the knots of Shaytan, and will motivate him to get up. When he performs wudhu', his determination becomes stronger, and Shaytan is driven further away, and when he prays, his Shaytan is defeated, his balance (of good deeds) becomes heavier, and he will feel happy and energetic.
5. Seeking Help from One's Family and Friends to Pray Fajr, and Encouraging One Another in this Regard
This is essential, and is undoubtedly included in the words of Allah (interpretation of the meanings):
" … Help you one another in al-birr and at-taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety) … " [Al-Qur'an 5:2]
"By Al-'Asr (time). Verily! Man is in loss, except those who believe and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth and recommend one another to patience." [Al-Qur'an 103:1-3]
The Muslim should encourage his wife, for example by waking her up to pray Fajr, and she should encourage him, no matter how tired and exhausted he may be. Children should also seek their father's help to wake up, so he can wake them when it is time for the prayer. No father should say "They have exams, they are tired, let them sleep, poor kids." It is a mistake to think that be doing this one is being a kind and merciful parent; true parental mercy means that the father wakes them up to worship Allah.
"And enjoin As-Salah (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them (the prayers) … " [Al-Qur'an 20:132 – interpretation of the meaning].
Just as family members should help and encourage one another to pray Fajr, so brothers in Islam can also help one another. For example, university students living in the same residence or neighbours in the same neighbourhood can help one another by knocking on a neighbour's door to wake him for prayer and helping him to worship Allah.
6. Praying to Allah to Help Him to Wake Up to Pray Fajr in Congregation
Du'a' is one of the greatest sources of strength and success in all things.
7. Using Various Means of Being Woken Up, Such as Alarm Clocks
These should be put in the most appropriate place. Some people put the alarm clock next to their head, and when it rings, they turn if off at once and go straight back to sleep. Such a person should put the clock a little further away, so that he can feel that it is really waking him up.
One can also arrange to receive alarm calls from the telephone company, and no Muslim should think that it is too much to pay for this service if he needs it, because this is spending in the way of Allah, and waking up to obey the command of Allah cannot be measured in terms of worldly wealth.
8. Throwing Water in the Face of the Person Who is Sleeping
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) praised the man who gets up at night to pray, and wakes his wife, and when she refuses to get up, he throws water in her face; and he praised the woman who gets up at night to pray, and wakes her husband, and when he refuses to get up, she throws water in his face. [Reported by Imam Ahmad in Al-Musnad, 2/250; Sahih al-Jami', 3494].
Throwing water in a person's face is one of the means of waking a person for prayer that is prescribed by Shari'ah. In fact it is quite refreshing and energizing. Some people may become enraged when woken in this manner, and they may shout and swear and issue threats, so the person who is seeking to wake another should employ wisdom and patience, and remember that the pens are lifted from the record of one who is sleeping (i.e., his deeds are not being recorded while he is asleep) – so he should put up with any bad treatment, and not let this put him off trying to wake people up for prayer.
9. Not Sleeping Alone
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade any man to sleep alone. [Reported by Imam Ahmad in Al-Musnad, 2/91; As-Silsilah as-Sahihah, no. 60] Perhaps the wisdom behind this prohibition is that a person could sleep too long if there is no-one to wake him up for prayer.
Not sleeping in remote places where it would not occur to anyone that someone could be sleeping there, such as a person sleeping on the roof of a house without telling his family where he is, or sleeping in a remote part of the house or student residence, so that no-one will know to wake him for prayer, but everyone will think that he is in the mosque when in fact he is fast asleep. Anyone who needs to sleep in a remote place should tell the people around him where he will be so that they can come and wake him.
10. Being Lively and Active Upon Waking
One should get up straightaway, and not wake up in stages, as some people do. A person could be woken up several times, and each time he gets up, but when his friend leaves, he goes back to bed. Waking up in stages usually ends in failure, and the only way to prevent falling asleep again is to get up straight away.
11. Not Setting the Alarm Too Early
If a person knows that there is still a long time to go until the time of the prayer, he may think, "I still have time, let me sleep a little more … " Everyone should know how to handle himself and avoid this situation.
12. Lighting a Lamp when Waking Up
Or, in our modern times, switching on the light. This has the effect of dispelling sleepiness.
13. Not Staying Up Late, Even to Pray Qiyam al-Layl
Some people may stay up late to pray qiyam al-layl, then fall asleep a few minutes before Fajr and be unable to wake up for the prayer. This happens a lot in Ramadhan – people stay up late and sleep a little while before Fajr, so they miss the prayer. No doubt this is a grave error, because fard (obligatory) prayer should take precedence over nafil (supererogatory) prayer. So what about those who stay up late not to pray but to commit sin, or at best to do permissible things? The Shaytan may make the idea of staying up late to discuss important matters attractive to some da'iyah (Islamic workers), then they sleep late and miss the prayer, thus losing much more than they gained.
14. Not Eating Too Much Before Going to Sleep
Eating too much makes one sleep deeply. The one who eats a lot gets very tired, and sleeps a lot, thus losing a lot. So one should try to eat lightly in the evening.
15. Warning About the Misinterpretation of the Sunnah to Lie Down After Praying the Sunnah of Fajr
Some people may have heard the hadith in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "When any one of you has prayed, let him lie down on his right side." [Reported by At-Tirmidhi, no. 420; Sahih al-Jami', 642] It was also reported that when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had prayed the sunnah of Fajr, he would lie down, then Bilal would call him to prayer, and he would stand up to pray. People may have heard these ahadith, and be keen to follow this proven sunnah, but they do not understand how to do it properly. So a person may pray the sunnah of Fajr, then lie down on his right side, and fall fast asleep until the sun rises. This is because of a lack of proper understanding. The lying down is not for the purpose of sleeping, and Bilal used to come and tell the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) when it was time to pray. Moreover, as was reported by Imam Ahmad and Ibn Hibban in a sahih hadith, if the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) wanted to rest before Fajr, he would put his head on his right palm, propped up on his elbow. [Reported by Ahmad in Al-Musnad, 5/298; Sahih al-Jami', no. 4752] This kind of resting prevents one from falling fast asleep, because in this case one's head is propped up on one's palm and elbow, and will drop if one dozes off, thus waking one up again. In addition to this, Bilal was entrusted with the responsibility of waking the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) for the Fajr prayer.
16. Praying Qiyam al-Layl Late in the Night
Just before Fajr, so that when one finishes witr, the call for Fajr prayer is given, making the worship continuous. The night prayer should be offered during the last third of the night – which is the preferred time – and immediately followed by the Fajr prayer, whilst one is feeling awake and energetic.
17. Following the Example of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) in Lying Down to Sleep
So a person should lie on his right side, placing his right cheek on his right hand. This position makes it easy to wake up. The best guidance is the guidance of Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and this is better than sleeping in any other position which may make it difficult to wake up.
Helping oneself by taking a nap during the day, because this will help a person by making him need less sleep at night.
Not sleeping after 'asr or maghrib, because this will make a person sleep late, and whoever sleeps late will find it difficult to wake up.
Finally, sincere devotion to Allah is the best thing to motivate a person to get up for prayer, because Allah is the One Who is controlling all means of help. If a person has that true sincerity and his heart is burning with devotion to Allah, then Allah will help him to get up to pray Fajr in congregation, even if he goes to sleep only a few moments before Fajr.
This sincerity and devotion may cause some very enthusiastic people to find unusual ways to help themselves to wake up to pray, which is a sign of their eagerness and keenness. One of them may set a number of alarm clocks to wake him up, setting each one a few minutes later than the other, so that if he turns the first one off, the next one will wake him a few moments later, and so on. Another may tie a string to his wrist, with the other end dangling from his window, so that when one of his friends passes by on his way to the mosque, he can pull on the string and wake him for Fajr prayer.
See what can be achieved with sincerity and determination, may Allah guide you! But the bitter truth is that weakness of faith and lack of sincerity are widespread among people nowadays, as we can see from the small numbers of people to be found praying in the mosques at Fajr, despite the fact that there are so many people living around the mosques in many neighbourhoods.
But no doubt there are people who sleep so heavily that it is almost like an illness, and they may be excused, because the matter is beyond their control. People in this situation should turn to Allah for help, and do everything that they possibly can, and visit the doctor, to try to find a cure.
Finally, a word about a well known phenomenon: some people claim that there is a hadith which says that the person who wants to get up for Fajr should recite the last part of Surah al-Kahf before sleeping, and have the intention in his heart to get up at a certain hour, and this will make him get up at that time. They claim that this is a tried and tested method. Our response is that there is no such sahih hadith, and this carries no weight whatsoever. The best guidance is the guidance of Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).
This is a problem that is widespread, especially among the youth. Someone asked:
"Our gatherings with friends and colleagues are filled with too much laughter, and it goes to extremes. This phenomenon is becoming ever more widespread. What is the solution?"
In response, the solution to this problem has two aspects: theoretical and practical. The theoretical aspect may be further broken down into two points:
Firstly, we should know how the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) conducted himself when it came to laughter, and he is the best example in this as in all other things.
It is reported in a sahih hadith that his laughter was never more than a smile. [Reported by Ahmad in Al-Musnad, 5/97; Sahih al-Jami', 4861] According to another hadith, he (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to remain silent for long periods, and laugh little. [Reported by Ahmad in Al-Musnad, 5/86; Sahih al-Jami', 4822] 'A'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said: "I never saw the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) laughing so heartily that his back teeth showed; he would only smile." [Reported by Abu Dawud, no. 5098]
According to a sahih hadith, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Do not laugh too much, for excessive laughter kills the heart (i.e., spiritually)." [Reported by Ibn Majah, no. 4193; Silsilah as-Sahihah, no. 506] According to another report, he said: " … too much laughter corrupts the heart." After knowing this, if a Muslim laughs to excess it is as if he is undertaking a journey that he knows will lead to his doom.
This is the theoretical response to this problem, in brief.
Before we turn to the practical aspects, we must point out that laughter is not haram, and the Muslim is not expected to be dour-faced and stern and rigid. Laughter is something which is quite natural, and indeed Allah says in the Qur'an (interpretation of the meaning):
"And … it is He (Allah) Who makes (whom He wills) laugh, and makes (whom He wills) weep." [Al-Qur'an 53:43]
But the problem which we are discussing here – excessive laughter – has a number of bad effects, including the following:
- It makes gatherings explode with guffaws and echo with raucous laughter.
- The believer's heart is spiritually corrupted by too much laughter, and he opens his mouth too wide, instead of being serious and of sound character.
- It leads to da'iyah (Islamic workers) making people laugh as a means of winning them over and having an influence on them, or so they claim. What they do not realize is that people gather around them only for the sake of laughter, and they do not benefit from them at all.
The problem is that some people use laughter as a safety valve or release from their stress and worries, resorting to an inferior means rather than what is better. I remember a young man who one day was suffering anxiety because he was behind in his studies, and was going through some family problems, and had other troubles as well. He went out of his house and bumped into a friend on the way, who asked him, "Where are you going?" He said: "I am worried and stressed out, so I'm going to see So-and-so, so he can make me laugh and forget my problems…" He did not realize that his friend's ability to make him laugh was like a drug which makes people forget while they are under its influence, but when it wears off, everything is still as it was before.
The Muslim should know better, and should treat worries and stress in the way prescribed by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). When something was troubling him, he would pray [Sahih al-Jami', 4703], and if something distressed him, he would say, "Ya Hayyu ya Qayyum, bi rahmatika astaghith (O Ever-Living, O Eternal One, by Your mercy I seek Your help)." [Sahih al-Jami', 4777] According to another sahih hadith, when he was overtaken by worries and distress, he would say, "Ya Hayyu ya Qayyum, bi rahmatika astaghith. Allahu rabbi wa la ushriku bihi shay'an (O Ever-Living, O Eternal One, by Your mercy I seek Your help. Allah is my Lord, and I do not associate anything with Him)." [Sahih al-Jami', 4791]
In the famous du'a' to relieve stress and anxiety, he said: "Allahumma inni 'abduka, wa'bnu 'adbdika wa'bnu amatika … (O Allah, I am Your slave, the son of Your slave, the son of Your maidservant …)"
This is a concept which has to be understood properly before we move on to a discussion of the practical ways of dealing with the problem of excessive laughter, which can be dealt with in the following ways:
1. Remembering Death
The grave, the Last Day and its reckoning, the bridge over Hell (as-sirat), the Fire, and all the other terrors of the Hereafter. The way to remember all these things is to read the texts that describe these scenes and to study the details and commentaries, as well as sitting with people who are ascetic (zahid) and whose hearts are devoted to Allah.
2. Thinking About the Situation of the Muslims and How They are Suffering Because They Have Strayed From Their Religion
They are behind in all fields of life, facing oppression, hardship and destruction, and subject to the plots of international conspiracies. When the Muslim thinks long and hard about this situation, it needs must have an impact on how much he laughs and cries.
3. Feeling the Weight of his Great Responsibility Towards his Ummah
Which is need of huge efforts to save it from the danger of falling. If this becomes his main concern, he will start making active efforts to reform his family and friends, and his society, as much as he can. He will not have the time for cracking stupid jokes or for excessive laughter or trivial pursuits.
4. Avoiding Mixing with Jokers
Who are well-known for making people laugh and trying to be funny, and keeping away from gatherings where they are present, whilst also trying to advise them and the people who sit with them. We have already referred to some Islamic workers who use the tactic of making people laugh as a means of winning people over, and in some cases the general public may say, "Where is the shaykh who makes us laugh? We want the shaykh who makes us laugh!" This is a step backwards, which we hope the ummah will avoid, because the Religion of Allah is great and strong. Allah says (interpretation of the meanings): "Verily! This (the Qur'an) is the Word that separates (the truth from falsehood …). And it is not a thing for amusement." [Al-Qur'an 83:13] and: " … Hold fast to that which We have given you … " [Al-Qur'an 2:93]. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "If you knew what I know, you would laugh little and weep much, and you would go out to the hills, beseeching Allah for help." If we really understood what is required of us, and what lies ahead, we would never even sleep peacefully.
5. Resisting the Urge to Laugh as Much as Possible, as Well as Trying to Stop Others from Laughing
There may be a gathering where the people are accustomed to laughing and chortling most of the time. So the Muslim must first suppress his own laughter, just as he suppresses a yawn, then he should advise the other people present and help them to control themselves. It takes a persuasive, determined and serious person to do this. There is a lot of goodness in people, praise be to Allah, and they are ready to respond to the one who wants to reform them and improve them. This can be achieved in a number of ways, such as telling them how bad it is to laugh and make others laugh, because it can lead to lies and falsehood when the "comedian" cannot find a true story to tell, so he makes up a tale from his imagination to make people laugh. This is the kind of person who was warned by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): "Woe to the one who talks and tells lies to make people laugh … woe to him, woe to him!" [Sahih al-Jami', 7136] It can also make him an unstable person who is held in low esteem by others, because the person who makes people laugh is despised by them, even if he thinks otherwise. They have no respect for him at all, and the same applies to the person who laughs too much.
6. Changing the Subject that Led to the Laughter, and Introducing Another, Useful Subject
If you see that the people have gone too far with their laughter, try to bring them to their senses, using a proper method, and introduce a serious topic and help them to make good use of their time, by reading a useful book, discussing an important topic, exchanging ideas, or suggesting some charitable project or other good work that Allah likes and is pleased with. As a last resort, if you have done all that you can to advise them correctly, get up and leave the gathering, to protect yourself from corruption.
" … and no bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another … " [Al-Qur'an 6:164 – interpretation of the meaning]
Waswas (Insinuating Thoughts from Shaytan)
A person may ask: "I am suffering from many insinuating thoughts (waswas) about the nature of Allah, may He be glorified. There are thoughts going around in my mind that I cannot utter because they are not befitting to Alaah, and they keep coming back to me, when I am praying and at other times. It is so bad that I doubt my faith, and wonder if I am even a Muslim or not. What is the cure for this problem?"
A number of ahadith have been reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) which contain the answer to this problem, alhamdulillah.
The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The Shaytan may come to any one of you and say, 'Who created Allah?' If any one of you experiences this, let him say, 'amantu billahi wa rasulih (I believe in Allah and His Messenger),' and that will drive him away." [Sahih al-Jami', 1657] The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The Shaytan may come to any one of you and ask, 'Who created the heaven?' and he will say, 'Allah.' The Shaytan will say, 'Who created the earth?' and he will say, 'Allah.' Then the Shaytan will say, 'Who created Allah?' If any one of you experiences this, let him say, 'amantu billahi wa rasulih.' " [Sahih al-Jami', 1656]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Whoever experiences anything of this waswas, let him say three times, ''amantu billahi wa rasoolih,' and that will drive (the Shaytan) away." [Sahih al-Jami', 6587]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The Shaytan may come to any one of you, and say, 'Who created such-and-such? Who created such-and-such?' until he asks, 'Who created your Lord?' If this happens to anyone, let him seek refuge with Allah and let him stop these thoughts." [Sahih al-Jami', 7993]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The people will nearly ask too many questions, so that one of them may say, 'Allah created all of creation, but who created Allah?' If they say this, then say: 'Allah is the One, Allah is the Self-Sufficient Master. He begets not, nor was He begotten; and there is none co-equal or comparable unto Him' [Al-Qur'an 112:1-4, interpretation of the meaning], and spit (drily) to your left three times, and seek refuge with Allah from the Shaytan." [Sahih al-Jami', 8182]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Think about the signs of Allah, do not think about Allah (Himself)." [Sahih al-Jami', 2975]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Think about the creation of Allah, do not think about Allah (Himself)." [Sahih al-Jami', 2976]
From these texts we may summarize the following six ways of overcoming these insinuating thoughts:
- The person who is experiencing such ideas should say, "Amantu billahi wa rasulih (I believe in Allah and His Messenger)."
- He should seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Shaytan, and say three times, "A'udhu billahi'l-Sami' il-'Alim min ash-Shaytan ir-rajim, min hamzihi wa nafkhihi wa nafathih (I seek refuge with Allah, the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing, from the accursed Shaytan, and from his slander and evil insinuations)."
- He should spit (drily) to his left three times.
- He should stop thinking about whatever it is that is on his mind, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Let him stop." This is an important tactic, because continuing to allow the Shaytan to influence one in this way can only make it worse. The Muslim must stop these thoughts, as much as he is able, and keep his mind busy with something useful and beneficial.
- He should recite Surah Al-Ikhlas (Qul huwa Allahu ahad), because it describes attributes of the Most Merciful and is considered to be equivalent to one-third of the Qur'an. Reciting this great Surah will guarantee an end to these insinuating thoughts.
- He should think about the creation and blessings of Allah, not about His nature, because his weak human mind can never comprehend the nature of Allah. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): " … and they will never compass anything of His Knowledge." [Al-Qur'an 20:110]
Staying Up Late
We have received so many questions about this problem that we know it is crying out for a solution. So many people are wasting so much time in staying up late at night.
But the truth of the matter is that this phenomenon is not homogenous. There are three kinds of staying up late:
(1) Staying up late to worship Allah. This is the worthy kind of staying up. It includes staying up for reasons that are of benefit to the Muslims in general, such as engaging in jihad and guarding the borders of Islam, as well as staying up to pray (qiyam al-layl) and read Qur'an. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): "They used to sleep but little by night [invoking their Lord and praying, with fear and hope]." [Al-Qur'an 51:17].
We should not forget, in this context, the great Sahabi who was guarding the Muslims at night, and spent his time on guard duty praying. He was struck by an arrow fired by the mushrikin, and his blood began to flow, but he kept on praying, enjoying his contact with his Lord.
It is reported that some of the scholars used to discuss hadith until the sun came up. Some of the sincere da'iyah (callers, Islamic workers) still stay up at night discussing matters that keep those who care about the ummah awake. An example of this is what happened with Shaykh 'Abdul-Hamid ibn Badis and Shaykh Al-Bashir al-Ibrahimi, the founders of the Muslim scholars' organization (Jam'iyat al-'Ulama' al-Muslimin) in Algeria. During their time in Madinah, they used to stay up all night, until Fajr time, discussing the state of the Muslim ummah and the bid'ah, myths and backwardness in which it had ended up, and planning how they would rescue Algerian society from this sorry state.
This kind of staying up is entirely worthy, so long as it does not lead to the neglect of something more important or more obligatory. Some people may stay up for a legitimate purpose, then miss Fajr prayers. This is a mistake.
(2) Staying up for a permissible reason. This is fine, as long as it does not lead to the neglect of something obligatory. This includes, for example, travellers staying up to talk to one another, in order to relieve the tedium of travel. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) would stay up to talk to one of his wives and keep her company, when they were on a journey.
This also includes talking to one's guests and keeping them company.
Also included is the staying up involved in modern-day shift work, created by the demands of materialistic circumstances. No doubt some of the interests of the Muslims demand the work of people at night, such as those who work in the security forces, in hospitals and airports, in supplying electricity, and so on.
(3) Staying up to commit sin, such as staying up to watch movies, to play haram games such as cards, or to consume the flesh of others by gossiping and backbiting and slandering, and other kinds of sin. This kind of staying up is haram, and those who do it are sinners who deserve the punishment of Allah. Their number has increased in modern times, for the reasons mentioned by the poet:
"Youth, idleness and good health, corrupt man in such a bad way!"
It is important to distinguish between one type of staying up and the other.
The habit of staying up late at night has become widespread in our times for a number of reasons, including the following:
- Staying up for worldly purposes, as in the case of some traders and businessmen who stay up late putting their affairs in order, or students who stay up to study. People in this situation should try to organize their time so that they will not need to stay up late and can thus avoid its bad consequences.
- The nature of modern life and the social changes which it has wrought. Earlier generations used to slow down and go to sleep when darkness fell, but the presence of electricity in modern times had led to people doing many activities, kinds of work and social activities that they never used to do during the hours of darkness. In some cases, people's nights have become just like their days.
- Many people's indulgence in the arts and media, by means of TV, radio, video, etc.
- Many people make their visits to family and friends, or organize programs etc., at nighttime, because of the nature of their work and studies. So you rarely find anyone who will visit you during the day, except at the weekend. Even gatherings for the pursuit of Islamic knowledge are mostly held after 'Isha' prayers.
- Some people indulge to excess in idle chatter and trivial discussions, even disturbing others with their talk and laughter. This phenomenon is perhaps most obvious among students living in university residences, where some inconsiderate visitors stay up late talking about who said what, causing harm to themselves and others, then neglecting many of their duties.
- Insomnia, which is often caused by indulgence in sin and being far away from Allah. Being far away from Allah means that a person can never feel content or at peace, but will be dogged by constant anxiety, alienation and confusion.
- Problems with one's family, money, studies or work, etc., also have a clear role in causing anxiety and insomnia, until they are resolved.
- Also, we should not ignore the fact that there are those who are prevented from enjoying the calm of sleep by insomnia that is caused by the fear of Allah and the keen desire to reform this enslaved ummah.
Having examined the types of staying up late, and explained the reasons for it, we may now turn to ways of treating this widespread problem.
Treatment from the theoretical point of view:
We should think about the physical harm that may be caused by staying up late and its detrimental effect on many of our interests, such as:
Neglect of Islamic duties, such as missing Fajr prayer, whether by not managing to attend the prayer in congregation, or by missing the prayer altogether and having to make it up later, or by praying in congregation but without the necessary concentration because of feeling so exhausted that one is left fighting sleep and failing to understand what is being said. So a person may not even know what the imam is reciting, or which rak'ah he is praying, or what he is saying at the various stages of the prayer. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade conversing after 'Isha'.
Physical harm may result from making the night a time for activity and the day for resting, contrary to the natural rhythm which Allah has created in the universe and in mankind. Allah says (interpretation of the meanings):
"And [We] have made the night as a covering [through its darkness], and have made the day for livelihood." [Al-Qur'an 78:10-11]
"Say: 'Tell me! If Allah made night continuous for you till the Day of Resurrection, who is an ilah [a god] besides Alaah who could bring you light? … ' " [Al-Qur'an 28:71]
"Say: 'Tell me! If Allah made day continuous for you till the Day of Resurrection, who is an ilah [a god] besides Allah who could bring you night wherein you rest? … " [Al-Qur'an 28:71]
So we find people who have gone astray and gone against their innate nature (fitrah) suffering from ill health. One hour of sleep at night is worth twice as many at any other time, as is well known from experience.
Many employees fall short in their work (as a result of staying up late). A man may come to work late, exhausted, and put in a poor performance, treating clients badly. It may be so bad that there is even doubt that his salary is entirely halal, because of his shoddy work.
The same applies to students who stay up late, and come late to school or university the next day, not caring if they have missed their early classes and barely understanding anything that is said in the classes they do attend.
Staying up late may cause a person to sleep at inappropriate times, such as sleeping after 'asr. The salaf (early generations of the ummah) used to dislike sleeping after 'asr unless there was a need for it – but if it is necessary, there is nothing wrong with doing so. Moreover, sleeping after 'asr can cause headaches, and make it difficult to get to sleep at night.
Staying up late makes it difficult to do some voluntary acts of worship, such as devoting the last third of the night to prayer, or getting up to eat suhur prior to observing a voluntary fast – how can those who stay up late manage to do these things? There is no doubt that exhaustion would prevent them from getting up, and so they deprive themselves of a great deal of good.
Missing out on the blessing of getting up early in the day. Those who stay up late sleep until after Fajr, thus missing out on the time of which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The early morning has been blessed for my ummah." [Sahih al-Jami', 2841] These people cannot stay in the mosque until sunrise in order to remember Allah, or go out early to earn their living during the time of blessing and virtue. This has become so widespread that in the mornings you can hardly see anyone who will open his store or business early.
When the wise person realizes the kinds of harm that result from staying up late, and the great loss that befalls him as a result, no doubt he will try his utmost to reform himself and make up for what he has missed. Thus he will take the first step towards solving the problem.
There follow a number of practical steps which can be followed by anyone who wants to solve this problem:
1. Trying hard to get used to sleeping early
Staying up late is basically a habit, and if anyone is prepared to struggle against his own self (jihad an-nafs) with determination, he can win the struggle in a few days, by the grace of Allah, and join the ranks of those who sleep early.
2. Getting married
Many single young men are quite disorganized, staying up late together and encouraging one another to do so, as they have no wives or children to think about. But the one who is married feels his responsibility towards his wife and children, so he is keen to go back to them early so that they will not worry about him, or feel afraid if they need him in the middle of the night, when he is away. Anyone who has experience of this will understand.
3. Strengthening one's feelings of responsibility in all areas will also be of help
When a man feels the burden of responsibility on his shoulders, he has no choice but to fulfil it. He will not be able to waste time, unlike those careless people who squander the vast treasure of time in trivial matters and have no appreciation for the value of time.
4. Adopting the habit of taking a siesta, instead of sleeping at the wrong times
Sleeping after 'asr or before 'Isha' is a harmful practice, as we have mentioned above. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) advised his ummah to take naps: "Take a siesta, for the shayatin (devils) do not take siestas." [Sahih al-Jami', 4431]
These are a few of the practical measures which one can take to combat the problem of staying up late. And Allah is the One Who guides to the Straight Path.
A person may complain: "I get very angry very quickly. If there is the slightest provocation, I quickly explode and start to break things, swear, curse and issue threats of divorce. This problem has caused me so much embarrassment, and has made most people hate me, even my wife and children and closest friends. What can I do to rid myself of this awful disease and extinguish this devilish fire?"
Anger is a tendency that comes from the Shaytan. Only Allah knows how much evil and sin results from it. Hence Islam has a great deal to say about this negative characteristic and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) described remedies for ridding oneself of this problem and limiting its effects. These include the following:
1. Seeking refuge with Allah from the Shaytan
Sulayman ibn Sard said: "I was sitting with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and there were two men swearing at one another. One of them was red in the face and the veins of his neck were standing out. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 'I know a word which, if only he would say it, this [anger] would leave him. If he said, 'A'udhu billahi min ash-shaytan (I seek refuge with Allah from the Shaytan),', this [anger] would leave him.' " [Reported by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath, 6/377] He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) also said: "If a man gets angry and says 'A'udhu billah (I seek refuge with Allah),' his anger will cease." [Sahih al-Jami' as-Saghir, no. 695]
2. Keeping quiet
The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "If any one of you gets angry, let him keep quiet." [Reported by Imam Ahmad, Al-Musnad, 1/239; Sahih al-Jami', 693, 4027] Anger usually makes a person lose control, often to the extent that he may utter words of kufr (Allah forbid), or curses, or the word of divorce (talaq) which will destroy his family, or foul language that will earn him the enmity of others. Keeping quiet is the way to avoid all of these evils.
3. Keeping still
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "If any one of you gets angry, let him sit down if he is standing. If his anger goes away, (that is good), otherwise let him lie down."
The narrator of this hadith was Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him), who told the following story: he was watering his animals at a trough, when some other people came along. He said, "Who among you will help Abu Dharr to water his animals and ... ?" A man said, "I will," but he broke the trough. Abu Dharr was standing, so he sat down, then he lay down. Someone asked him, "O Abu Dharr, why did you sit down then lie down?" He said, "Because the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said … (and quoted the hadith)." [The hadith with the whole story is reported in Musnad Ahmad, 5/152. See also Sahih al-Jami', no. 694]
According to another report, Abu Dharr was watering his animals at a trough when another man made him angry, so he sat down … [Fayd al-Qadir al-Mannawi, 1/408].
One of the benefits of this Prophetic teaching is that it prevents the angry person from doing something crazy and out of control. An angry person could inflict harm or even kill – as we shall see shortly – or he could destroy property and so on. Sitting down makes it less likely that he will explode in this fashion, and lying down makes it even less likely that he will do something reckless or harmful. Al-'Allamah Al-Khattabi (may Allah have mercy on him) said in his commentary on Abu Dawud: "The one who is standing is ready to move and destroy things. The one who is sitting is less likely to do so, and the one who is lying is not able to do anything of the sort. It seems that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) commanded the angry person to sit down or lie down in order to prevent him from doing anything that he would later regret. And Allah knows best." [Sunan Abi Dawud wa Ma'ahu Ma'alim As-Sunan, 5/141]
4. Remembering the advice of the Messenger of Allah
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that a man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said: "Advise me." He said: "Do not become angry." The man repeated his request several times, and each time the response was, "Do not become angry." [Reported by Al-Bukhari, Fath al-Bari, 10/465]
According to another report, the man said, "I thought about what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had said, and I realized that anger is the source of all evil." [Musnad Ahmad, 5/373]
"Do not get angry, and Paradise will be yours." [A sahih hadith. Sahih al-Jami', 7374. Ibn Hajar attributed it to At-Tabarani. See Al-Fath, 4/465]
5. Remembering what Allah has promised
To those who avoid the causes of anger and strive to control themselves is the best way to extinguish the flames of anger. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has told us about this great reward: "Whoever suppresses his anger at the time when he could express it openly, Allah will fill his heart with contentment on the Day of Resurrection." [Reported by At-Tabarani, 12/453; Sahih al-Jami', 176]
Another immense reward is described in the hadith: "Whoever suppresses his anger when he is able to vent it, Allah will call him before all the people on the Day of Resurrection and let him choose whoever of the hur al-'iyn he wishes." [Reported by Abu Dawud, 4777, and others. Classed as hasan in Sahih al-Jami', 6518]
6. Knowing the high rank and distinction that is bestowed upon the one who controls himself
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, "The strong man is not the one who can wrestle another to the ground; the strong man is the one who can control himself when he is angry." [Reported by Ahmad, 2/236. The hadith is agreed upon] The more angry a person gets, the more highly valued is his self-control. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The real strong man is the one who gets intensely angry, so that his face reddens and his hair stands on end, but he suppresses his anger." [Reported by Imam Ahmad, 5/367; classed as hasan in Sahih al-Jami', 3859] The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used an incident that took place in front of his Sahabah as an opportunity to reinforce this lesson. Anas reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) passed by some people who were wrestling, and asked, "What is this?" They told him, "So-and-so is a strong man. No one challenges him but he beats them at wrestling." The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, "Shall I not tell you who is stronger than him? A man who is mistreated by another, but suppresses his anger, has defeated his own shaytan and the shaytan of the one who mistreated him." [Reported by Al-Bazzar. Ibn Hajar said that its isnad is hasan. Al-Fath, 10/519]
7. Following the guidance of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) with regard to anger
He is our example, and his attitude towards anger is clearly demonstrated in many ahadith, of which one of the most famous was reported by Anas (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: "I was walking with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and he was wearing a Najrani cloak with a stiff collar. He was accosted by a Bedouin who pulled his cloak roughly. I looked at the Prophet's neck and saw the marks left by the collar. The Bedouin said: 'O Muhammad, give me some of the wealth of Allah that you have!' The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) turned to him and smiled, and ordered that he should be given something." [Reported by Al-Bazzar. Ibn Hajar said that its isnad is hasan]
Another way in which we may follow the example of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is by making our anger for the sake of Allah, when the limits set by Allah are violated. This is the worthy kind of anger. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) became angry when he was told about the imam who was putting people off praying because his recitation was too long. He became angry when he saw a curtain decorated with pictures of animate creatures in 'A'ishah's house. He became angry when Usamah spoke to him about the Makhzumi woman who was guilty of theft, and said to him, "Are you interceding concerning one of the punishments prescribed by Allah?" He became angry when he was asked questions he disliked. His anger was only for the sake of Allah.
8. Knowing that suppressing anger is one of the signs of taqwa (piety)
Allah has praised certain people in His Book, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) highly commended them. There have been prepared for them Gardens as wide as the heavens and the earth. One of their characteristics is that they " … spend (in Allah's Cause) in prosperity and in adversity, [they] repress anger, and pardon men; verily, Allah loves al-muhsinoon (the good-doers)." [Al-Qur'an 3:134 – interpretation of the meaning]. These are the people whose good qualities Allah has mentioned, people whom others admire and want to catch up with. Another of their characteristics is that "when they are angry, they forgive." [Al-Qur'an 42:37 – interpretation of the meaning]
9. Paying attention when one is reminded
Anger is something natural, with regard to which people differ. It may be very hard for a person not to get angry, but a sincere person, if he becomes angry and is reminded about Allah, will remember Him and will stay within the limits that He has prescribed. Some examples of this follow.
Ibn 'Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) reported that a man asked permission to see 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him), and permission was given. The man said, "O son of al-Khattab, by Allah, you are not giving us much, and you are not ruling us fairly!" 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) became so angry that he was about to hit the man, but Al-Hirr ibn Qays (who was among the people sitting with 'Umar) said, "O Amir al-Mu'minin, Allah said to His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): 'Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish (i.e., don't punish them)' [Al-Qur'an 7:199 – interpretation of the meaning], and this man is one of the foolish." By Allah, 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) did not take the matter any further when this was recited to him. He adhered to the words of Allah, may He be Glorified and Exalted. [Reported by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath, 8/304] This is how the Muslim should be, not like the evil hypocrite who, when he got angry and was told about the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and was advised by one of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) to seek refuge with Allah from the Shaytan, said, "Do you think there is something wrong with me? Do you think I am crazy? Go away!" [Reported by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath, 1/465] We seek refuge with Allah from failure.
10. Knowing the bad effects of anger
The bad effects of anger are many, harming both the self and others. A person may swear and utter obscenities, and may hit others, lashing out with no control. It may even lead to killing. The following story contains a lesson.
'Alqamah ibn Wa'il reported that his father (may Allah be pleased with him) told him: "I was sitting with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) when a man came along, leading another by a twisted rope. He said, 'O Messenger of Allah, this man killed my brother.' The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asked, 'Did you kill him?' He said, 'Yes, I killed him.' He asked, 'How did you kill him?' He said, 'He and I were hitting trees to make the leaves fall (so we could use them for animal fodder). He swore at me, so I got angry and hit him on the side of the head with an axe, and I killed him.' … " [Reported by Muslim in As-Sahih, 1307]
Even if anger does not go as far as this, there may still be broken bones and injuries. If the person with whom a man is angry runs away, he may turn his anger upon himself, tearing his clothes, slapping his cheeks, falling unconscious, or breaking dishes and furniture.
One of the worst things that result from anger and cause social ills and family breakdown is talaq (divorce). Ask many of those who have divorced their wives how and when it happened, and they will tell you, "It was in a moment of anger."
Lives are shattered and children are lost as a result. Feelings of regret and failure haunt people's minds, and life becomes bitter – all because of anger. If only they had remembered Allah and come back to their senses, restrained their anger and sought refuge with Allah from the Shaytan, what happened would not have happened. Going against sharee'ah only ever results in loss.
The physical harm that results from anger is very serious, as the doctors describe, such as thrombosis, high blood pressure, fatal heart attacks, diabetes, etc. We ask Allah for good health.
12. The angry person should think about himself at the time of anger
If the angry person could see himself in the mirror at the time of anger, he would despise himself and how he looks when his colour changes, he shakes uncontrollably, his face reddens, the veins of his neck stand out and he behaves like a crazy person. He would be put off by his own appearance, but it is well known that the ugliness that exists inside a person is even worse than any that may appear on the outside. How happy the Shaytan must be when someone is in this state! We seek refuge with Allah from the Shaytan and from failure.
This is the believer's constant weapon. He asks his Lord to rid him of evils, problems and bad characteristics, and he seeks refuge with Allah from falling into the pit of kufr and wrongdoing caused by anger, because one of the three qualities which will save a person from Hellfire is being just and fair both at times of contentment and at times of anger. [Sahih al-Jami', 3039] One of the du'a' of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was:
"Allahumma bi 'ilmika'l-ghaybi wa qudratika 'ala'l-khalqi ahini ma 'alimta'l-hayata khayran li, wa tawaffani idha 'alimta'l-wafata khayran li. Allahumma wa as'aluka khashyataka fi'l-ghaybi wa'l-shahadah, wa as'aluka kalimat al-ikhlasi fi'l-rida wa'l-ghadab, wa as'aluka'l-qasda fi'l-faqri wa'l-ghina, wa as'aluka na'iman la yanfad, wa qurrata 'aynin la tanqati', wa as'aluka'l-rida bi'l-qada', wa as'aluka bard al-'aysh ba'd al-mawt, wa as'aluka ladhdhat al-nadhr ila wajhika wa'l-shawqa ila liqa'ik, fi ghayri darra' mudirrah wa la fitnati mudillah. Allahumma zayyinna bi zinati'l-iman wa'j'alna hudatan muhtadin (O Allah, by Your knowledge of the Unseen and Your power over all creation, keep me alive so long as You know life is good for me, and bring about my death when you know death is good for me. O Allah, I ask You to make me fear You in secret and in the open, I ask You to make me speak sincerely at times of contentment and at times of anger, I ask You to make me be moderate in poverty and in wealth, I ask You for a blessing that does not end, contentment that never ceases, and for acceptance of Your decree. I ask You for a good life after death, and I ask You for the joy of looking upon Your face and the longing to meet You, with no harmful adversity or misleading trial (fitnah). O Allah, adorn us with the beauty of faith, guide us and let us be a means of guidance for others)." [Reported by An-Nisa'i in As-Sunan, 3/55; and by Al-Hakim. Sahih al-Jami', 1301]
Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.